(Office of the Children’s Lawyer) The wicked witch of the East has been found: In Oshawa

Apr 01

The Office of the Children’s Lawyer is a law office in the Ministry of the Attorney General that is suppose to provide justice on behalf of children under 18.  This office and those representing it, the clinical investigators, prepare reports for the court in a custody/access proceeding to assist lawyers who are representing the children in court, such as the Family Court in Oshawa.
 
Now this all sounds nice and very protective of the rights and best wishes of children.  

 

Can the Office of the Children’s Lawyer (OCL) Provide Unbiased Evaluation?

 
In my view and experience the answer is NO.  The OCL, or Office of the Children’s Lawyer, allows for the unfair discrimination of men with regards to investigating the best interests of children.  
 
Some years ago my children’s mother abandoned them leaving when one child was only 2 years old.  The mother at that time wanted nothing to do with the children.  A few years later when she realized that she would have to pay child support she began to fight for the kids.  The OCL, or Office of the Children’s Lawyer, got involved using a social worker based out of Oshawa Family Court.  At the time I was naive thinking that I had nothing to fear, how wrong I was.  Father discrimination is rampant in Durham Region and supported by the Durham Children’s Aid Society, the OCL or Office of the Children’s Lawyer and the court system.  I met this woman at my front door, long silver hair pulled tight in to a ponytail.  She stood straight and ridged like an army sergeant.  There was no doubt in my mind that this woman was burned by a man and she was out exact revenge.  She was cold, short and extremely condescending.  She could care less about the children and what was making them happy and only probed in to the failure of the marriage.  This woman hated men and it showed.  I had visions of the wicked witch of the East burning her bra back in the 70’s. But, as I sat there talking with her I thought that I was going to have a fair evaluation of my circumstances.  Was I wrong!  This woman not only reported a completely biased view of what was going on she out right lied.  This social worker who hated men and had an axe to grind wanted to take out her revenge on all the men out there.  She wrote such foul lies about me, the father of these children who solely provided for them for over 4 years, in her report to the court I had to take action.  
 

How to file a response to the OCL report?

 
The only course of action I could take was to file a response to this outrageous report.  Unlike the social workers report, my report was exact and factual and removed of emotional bias.  Issue after issue I painted a clear picture of what actually happened, then I filed it.  The OCL or Office of the Children’s Lawyer received my response and simply ignored it.  They responded back, not that I expected anything different, without issue of the original report. They were ok with lies and half truths.  

Oshawa Family Court

 
I will say that the judges, and there were a few, that read both the OCL, or Office of the Children’s Lawyer, report and my response to it all came to the same general view.  The Office of the Children’s Lawyer is not always right and there views can be biased, they dismissed the report.
 
Men, fathers, when you are fighting for your children remember this.  You will NOT get any support from the system including the Office of the Children’s Lawyer, the Durham Children’s Aid Society and other services provided in Durham Region.  You will need to fight hard and more importantly smarter.  Find a good lawyer in Durham Region, and that’s hard to do, that understands how to fight for fathers.
 
Good luck with your battle!
 
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What to look for when hiring a divorce lawyer in Oshawa: Part 1

Mar 18

Knowing how to find a good divorce lawyer, or family lawyer, and what qualities to look for is the foundation to taking the steps to hiring a divorce lawyer. A good divorce lawyer is essential to ensuring your needs are met and you get the settlement you want, not a settlement that ruins your life.

Failing to take the time to understand how to find a good family lawyer, or divorce lawyer, will wreck havoc with your life for decades.  Many people who have not sought the proper advise to find a good divorce lawyer but trusted emotional references such as friends and family have found out the hard way through large legal bills.

It’s easy to listen to friends and family when it comes to your separation and divorce needs.  They often will support almost anything you say and tend to adopt your anger.  This doesn’t help when you are looking for an objective view.  A family lawyer, divorce lawyer in Oshawa, can have the same flawed approach.  Many cheap divorce lawyer or so called caring lawyers realize that your emotional state clouds your judgement.  Knowing this they can take full advantage of you and drive the cost of your divorce through the roof.  It’s only after the dust has settled to you realize how foolish you were.

How do you find a good divorce lawyer in Oshawa?

First, be fully aware that divorce lawyers in Oshawa have to make money.  They are a business and businesses need customers.  You’re the customer, not their friend.  Advertisements and other forms of attracting you to their door are all meant to do just that.  They like other businesses use marketing companies to drive up business. This ads can and often do mislead and border on lying as many other forms of advertising.  Always remember that they run a money making family law firm, not a free legal aid advice firm.  

Here are some basic things to consider when looking for a divorce lawyer in Oshawa.

Find a family lawyer in Oshawa that specializes in divorce (I know sounds obvious but not all do).  A divorce lawyer in the Durham Region whose specialty is family law (and has done this for some time) will have a greater depth of experience and knowledge in family law in the Durham Region.

Although this may seem very obvious one has to consider this.  Unlike the medical profession the legal profession does not have any ‘rules’ as to when and how a lawyer can call themselves a ‘specialist’.  This sets up a situation where any lawyer can change their ‘expertise’ when needed.  Combine this with the reality a divorce firm in Oshawa is a business no different the used car dealership down the road many family law firms in Oshawa will adapt in order to stay in business.  This type of lawyer becomes a jack of all trades and master of none.  Avoid them like the plague.

Look for a divorce lawyer with extensive experience. Find a divorce lawyer who has been practicing for some years and has practiced for many or most of these as a family law and divorce specialist. Importantly, check that a divorce lawyer has sufficient experience in the Oshawa Family Courts.

More tips on how to find a good divorce lawyer in Oshawa to follow.  Keep reading our blog to find out more…

 

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Family Lawyer in Durham Region Including Oshawa, Pickering, Ajax, Whitby

Mar 09

 Are you looking for a family lawyer in the greater Durham Region?

Watch out!  Yes I’ve been down that path a few times and let me tell you.  They all seem to do exactly the same thing, collect your money.  For obvious reason I can’t name names here, hell we are talking about lawyers.  But I have a few tips that I hope you find useful when search for a lawyer in the Durham Region.  That could be a lawyer in Oshawa or a lawyer in Pickering you might even consider a lawyer in Ajax or lastly a lawyer in Whitby.

 

 

Tips On Finding a Good Family Lawyer

Ok these tips aren’t going to be your usual white washed legal advise but rather based on real experience.

Ask for references

If your lawyer gives you the car salesman line, don’t you trust me or something along those lines, run for the hills.

Drive the ship

Always remember who is paying the bill, it’s you did you forget?  Many lawyers pray on your anger and formulate plans to exact it at your ex.  Now really what they are doing is putting blinders on you and leading down the path.  Take control and learn early to say NO to your lawyer.

Double check with SOME family or friends

Now be very careful here.  Asking for advice from your cheerleaders can and often does get you in more trouble.  Find someone who doesn’t hate your ex like you do and someone who can say no to you.  This person will help guide you better then anyone else.

Get free advise

Many courts have a free advise center.  Depending on your income you will either get procedural advise or detailed advise.  I suggest you don’t let them know you already have a lawyer and make them think that you’re looking for one. This way you will get some ‘extra’ advise to help keep you and your real lawyer in check.

Having these basic tips when going through what is often called hell will help to keep you guided in a healthy direction. 

Have something to add?  Go ahead have your say.

 

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